‘Rather charming my Dear’ Decorating for two

Whether you are shacking up your bestie or a convenient random , decorating for two comes along with numerous aces and ploys.

A couple of friends of mine are moving in together soon and as we brain stormed over pinterests flawlessly chic light fitting ideas, I oooooggggled at the piles of gorgeous fresh linen, pots in boxes and chic colour schemes flushed through my head (particularly soft teal and copious amounts of crisp white).

 I found myself mentally redecorating room after room and reminiscing the past 7 years of my life rooming with my ‘boetie’ , after which I recently trailed off into the distance to wed my bestie (we still have some boxes lurking at us at night). Through it all, I have picked up on a few tips that make living together ‘rather charming my dear’ than atrocious.

House mates and even the best of friends catch themselves arguing about girl VS boy habitual antics; toilet seat up or down, toothpaste splatters and for goodness sake replace the empty toilet roll! or who is going to wash the dishes that night. Thus it is advisable to swot the person you are living with and comprehend their mannerisms – as some of them can be compromised and others will turn you blue in the face for the number of times you have to repeat the same thing *blankstare *slapface over and over again.

Picking your battles means they will pick theirs too.


Slim to none two people have the exact same taste in décor, style and ambiance. So making some ‘home ground’ so speak means GET ON THE SAME PAGE. If you cant seem to agree on design in a communal space, agree to disagree and go neutral with personal elements of each personals pizazz. You will always have your own room to tackie-fie. Make your expectations known. Non comprisable items need to be discussed upfront. Head on, before you progress any further.

DESIGNATE AREAS for each person to be the design head. That way you can work your magic, by blending both styles into one.

That being said. Keeping it SIMPLE will always remain the winner, low maintenance for shared spaces is courteous and not tedious for other house guests.

BE A GOOD ROOMIE, whether is cooking a home cooked meal (or grabbing some Great take out if your skills are average behind the stove) or doing a load of washing, it shows your vigorous involvement within a home. Your roomie will love you for it!

No doubt there will be plenty of sacrifices made in the shared spaces like the living room, dining room, and kitchen. So if you feel hushed creatively, let your personal style sheen through in your bedroom. Right now, its your space to embrace, your character and you can feed your soul.

Once you move in with your hubby / wife, this will no longer apply (bye bye, chic mademoiselle bedding and 100 face products on display…)

– M



Tips to impress: Interview Basics

It all starts out like this… “Welcome, please take a seat and relax, we just want to get to know you a bit better .” *Choke maybe you believe them (amateur) and they proceed to verbally decapitate you, which results in bullets of sweat, nervous abbreviated answers trying to remember your WINNING characteristics until the torture is over.

Lets see what we can do to help you prepare as much as humanly possible, for what seems like agony for many across the world.

  1. Print out copies of your CV the day before. NOT THE DAY OF.  If you are spending the 15 minutes just before your interview standing in a long, anomalous smelling queue, waiting to print out copies of your CV, realising you actually had five spelling mistakes that is now haunting you. Then you are definitely not in the bathroom at the coffee shop or in the car park calmly applying a final layer of finishing powder, wiping down you sweaty palms and putting your Game Face on. Also: recruiters see an enormous amount of CVs, for goodness sake – MAKE A SUMMARY and spare them the turmoil.
  2. Timing is everything. Rushing through urgent work or meetings at your current job, stressing that you will never make it to your dream job interview on time, leaves no room for calm and practical you! Running around in high heels, cursing yourself, that the traffic chose to ‘do this to you’ and spilling coffee on your suit isn’t cute. Plan your work load, tell your manager in advance that you will be off (either at the dentist or really at an interview if it’s the final stages) and work in traffic time. You will thank me later.
  3. But if it’s in an office building, don’t show up like 30 minutes early.Otherwise you’ll be sitting in the reception area anxiously, your interviewer will feel rushed or ignore you completely (awkwies) as you witness your competition confidently exit the room, and you proceed to pee break number three.
  4. Get all your details and triple check.I know. It’s so basic it is stupid. But check the address, building name and room number several times. So much time can be wasted ending up in the wrong place at the wrong time and worst of all bumping into your interviewer on the other side of the building asking for directions. Be diligent and calm and ask questions to reception and security staff – that’s your ONLY safe area.
  5. No matter how informal and non-corporate the company is, don’t underestimate.Yes, we may be applying for a job in a trendy, pre twenty something, where coworkers sit around in bean bag chairs and head out happy hour EVERY Friday with the boss. And yes, the interviewer may be around your age. But that does not mean you are allowed to rock up in jeans and flats, spreading your last club jol? This isn’t brunch with your betches. Put on some heels, a jacket and prepare yourself to impress your interviewer, because you definitely want to be able to work yourself up to sitting on your cushionie bean bag chair job one day.
  6. Do your research on the company and the interviewer beforehand.You should know next to everything about the place you’re applying at. And if you know who’s going to interview you, definitely LinkedIn-stalk them. You might know people in common, which would help you out.
  7. Make sure you’re following the company’s Twitter/ LinkedIn, Facebook.Or any other social media presence they have. They’ll notice if you follow them the moment you leave the interview.
  8. You love this company more than anything you’ve ever loved, including (but not limited to) Chocolate, Greys Anatomy and of course Happy hour. If you don’t look eager, they won’t know you are eager. Show yourself and you can remain YOU when you land the job! You are SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW.
  9. Treat the interview sort of like a brainstorming meeting you’d have after you’ve been hired.Discuss how to improve the company along the lines of what your interviewer is looking for — it will illustrate what you can bring to the table that other people can’t, and show him/her that you’re bursting with ideas.
  10. Don’t ramble.If the interviewer asks you an open-ended question (for instance, the dreaded “So tell me about yourself!”) he/she is aiming to discover how you operate in an unstructured environment. Here, you can refer to a popular interview hack called the STAR Technique.
    Situation:Open with a brief description of the Situation and context of the story (who, what, where, when, how).
    Task: Explain the Task you had to complete highlighting any specific challenges or constraint (eg deadlines, costs, other issues).
    Action: Describe the specific Actions that you took to complete the task. These should highlight desirable traits without needing to state them (initiative, intelligence, dedication, leadership, understanding, etc.)
    Result: Close with the result of your efforts. Include figures to quantify the result if possible
  11. Don’t bullshit. Point. No need for explanation.
  12. Be careful with your body language.While, say, hair-twirling or suggestively dragging a finger along your mama seta’s is obviously out, there are smaller nervous habits that you should be avoiding too. Leg-jiggling, for one thing. Even nodding too much as he/she is speaking — which is more common for women than men — should be avoided. It’s irritating, and it shows that you are nervous.
  13. Encounter that farewell awkward BUT firm sweaty hand shake and send follow-up thank you emails to everybody you met with.

– M


Style it. Live it. Be it.

Rachel Zoe gets me.

So often one speaks endlessly in an attempt to explain themselves, reaffirm who they are, what they do and being ‘in your face’ so to speak, can be noisy and crowded. Who says we need it? Why not be comfortable with who we are as individuals- simply and silently. It clothes us, so let it adorn each personality and mood as we grow into the many phases of our beings.

Lets Admire, encourage and compliment, it alters every perception and lends to evolution.

– M

What brought this blog about?

As we grow into our own, from our teenage years, varsity wild sides and we begin to settle down into our career paths, it all would seem like the usual progression, wouldn’t it? But what happens when you are just unsure of where the rest of your life lies? Are you okay with just doing anything or are you driven to what sets your soul on fire?

Many people take on a variety of career paths, some that are conventional and some not, some intentional and others accidental. At a young age, we are queued into cherry-picking subjects to study at school and courses to select at Varsity, constantly pondering … what do I want to be when I grow up?

So we narrow down the options to what am I good at and what do I enjoy, from the handpicked possibilities presented to us.

Some of us may not enjoy the method of the Education system presented per Institution, yet pick up our books, hard graft (with the parties in between), hoping its all normal and that we will figure it out along the way.

So now at 25, I can say, I have progressed through several jobs, experienced horrific and amazing managers, enjoy what I do for a living, am successful, passionate and driven… but is it enough? Is it enough just to be ‘busy working’ all day and all night? Does that make us feel commendable or worthwhile? Do long hours or high levels of stress make us feel accomplished?

Recently I participated in a survey, (because I couldn’t say no, and wanted to help a colleague out). I was posed with the question, “what drives you to wake up in the morning?” Well at first I thought.. hmmm sometimes I struggle to get out of bed, “does that mean I don’t like my job, is it just because its winter…where am I going with my life…” Panic. Breathe. Then I paused my frantic thoughts for a second and said, “I am thrilled at the fact that I can help people, I provide people opportunities, careers, not just jobs and the satisfaction that THEY were chosen to pursue this as their life long passion and that in turn allowed them to deal with universal financial pressures.”

Well if you haven’t guessed, I work in Human Resources. Now you know why I am asking so many questions. Human Resources are well known for being bad mouthed.

Some people say HR only exists for one reason, and that is to prevent lawsuits. Left to focus on compliance, human resources departments are seen as little more than police, something that annoys just about everyone.

A company’s most valuable asset is people. Business professionals know that. Of course, human resources must understand that, especially since it is the basis of their existence.

I will continue to explore the many avenues life has to offer. I sure hope you will enjoy my journey with me.


– M